"Toxic wife syndrome" is a term, introduced by British journalist Tara Winter Wilson,
describes a woman that turns into a demanding, doing nothing diva living luxury parasitic life
while her husbands, usually quite well off pays all the bills.
They are usually quite attractive women with good education, having high-powered jobs in the past,
but quit them right after getting married to create a comfortable home environments for present or future
children, but in reality fill up their days with shopping, salons and luxuriating, while the freshly employed staff
cares about the house and children. This term in not about stay-at-home-mothers and housewives, but about women that
choose to become exquisite ornament to their husbands, yet a toxic ornament.
Tara Wilson suggests a guide to spotting a potential toxic wife.
These are some "red flags" and questions that may help you identify a woman that tends to become a toxic wife:
"1. Women who are secure in themselves
and have a more developed emotional intelligence and personal depth do not feel the need to show off.
Check whether or not she is festooned with 'designer' accessories. Listen carefully to what she says. How often does she name-drop?
2. On first acquaintance,
she will want to find out if you're rich or not. If you find
yourself discussing your assets within the first 10 minutes you know her agenda.
She is not going to waste time on you if you don't have serious money.
3. She will flirt without first finding out
if you're married or involved with someone else. She has no scruples about stealing another woman's man.
4. Even though she may
have an impressive job, her main asset is sex. She will
come on in a highly provocative manner, be wearing lots of
make-up and revealing clothes. Potential toxic wives are extremely clever.
Do not equate intelligence with emotional values and worth.
5. Often she will use the FSFM tactic (feel sorry for me).
This will manifest itself on the second or third date. She wants to assess how generous you can be
and will tell you how ''naive" she is and how "misled'' by some nasty people she owes money to. As a
chivalrous male, you get out your chequebook.
6. You must find out how motivated she is.
Ask her what her future goals, dreams and aspirations are.
7. Toxic gold-diggers tend to target older men.
And your level of physical attractiveness makes no difference. Do you genuinely wildly arouse her or is this all an act?
8. She will choose the most expensive item on the menu or the most expensive drink.
9. Men, who have been recently widowed or divorced are great prey. You are at your most vulnerable.
10. Before you marry, go on holiday together or spend at least some time co-habiting. Remember, if you
make a mistake you will pay for it for the rest of your life."
Here is the full version of her article "Don't fall for this deadly honey trap".
Besides, we would also like to give some sound advice.
While you may really have crash on some woman, be wise and don't fool yourself, too big an age gap will rarely help to build harmonious
relationship. Don't fall for women that are much younger, they belong to different generation, with probably different views and
values, pace of life and aims. Don't disregard physiology as well.
Too glamorous ladies with model look will most likely be interested in their appearance more then in you and your relationship.
Don't show off and speak much about your high position at work, property, your income, popular places you visit or plan to
on holiday, luxurious and trouble free lifestyle you can afford and offer. Running to a different extreme and saying you a not
going to be a milch-cow or a sugar daddy for a woman in very letter or conversation will surely not attract, but a decent
down- to-earth behavior of a worthy man will surely give you an advantage.
Never ever send money to a person you have never seen or you have doubts in.
There is a number of ways to pay for her English lessons, many agencies offer free mail forwarding and translation services for women, so that she does not get strained financially because of your communication, ets.
Don't be lazy , come and visit her first in her home city. Paying for a visa and tickets to your country to a woman you have
never seen may end up with never seeing neither a woman nor your money.
